Do you think of yourself as a perfectionist? Do you sometimes feel that no matter how hard you try, nothing is ever good enough? If so, you are not alone.

Sometimes we create very high expectations for ourselves. We oftentimes do this to do a “good job” in the eyes of others. If we don’t reach our high objectives, however, we can feel unworthy, anxious, and stressed. This might happen when our emotions start to dictate how we feel. This can get in the way of how we see the progress we have made, harming our self-confidence.




You are doing a better job than you think!

We’re our own worst critics. For example, the belief that you are not accomplishing all of your goals could make you believe that you are inadequate. While you’re stressed and anxious about your perceived shortcomings, others may think that you may be accomplishing a lot more than you give yourself credit for. In fact, you might be surpassing all expectations. To put this into context, let’s try a thought experiment. Imagine that you and a friend switch places. They now experience the same challenges which you face. They often hold themselves to a standard that seems impossibly high. What advice would you give them to stay focused on themselves and on the reality of their situation? Now imagine you switch back once again. Would this same advice apply to the reality of your situation and possibly help you?

Sometimes a change in perspective to reframe a given situation is all that we need. You are most likely more cunning, talented, athletic, charming, or loving than you may think. Whenever you are feeling the pressure from your own high expectations, return to this exercise to remind yourself of how great of a job you’re doing. You can be your own best cheerleader!

Written by Alejandro Serrano Saunders

Written by Alejandro Serrano Saunders

Alejandro is the Chief-Scientific Officer of uMore, the AI-powered mental well-being tracker.

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